Have you ever thought about what EXACTLY “Mending a Broken Heart” means?

It’s very simpe. Think about what healing a broken leg means. Does it mean you can run again, wear beautiful hills, and have pedi with flowers? You don’t have to take painkilles, use a walker, and feel bad. You are almost there. This would be a RESULT of healing your broken leg. What would the processe? Well, to visit the doctor, place a cast, go through a healing rotine, and then start walking…slow, then faster, and only then run, dance in hills, and and wear the most seductive toe designs.

The same principles apply to mending a broken heart. Do you want to feel happy, enjoy every minute of your life, forget about a painful experience, meet your true love, and live happily ever after? Those are RESULTS. But in order to get your results, you have to go through the PROCESS of Mending a Broken Heart.

What needs to be done in order to Mend a Broken Heart?

1)      You have to realize that you REALLY want to mend your broken heart. Do not smile sarcastically – I know people who just enjoy swimming in their misery because they get tons of attention this way. Their frends and family suddenly call them more often, bring them gifts, take them out, etc. As a result, a  heart-broken person suddenly gets showered with attention and even though she says that she “wants to get over it”, subconciosly she does everything to stay where she is.

2)      You have to accept the fact that healing your broken heart is a process. It won’t happen overnight and will require your own work. You can have all the guidance in the world, but you have to do your work yourself. It’s like losing weight. You have to hire a personal trainer and a nutritionist, but YOU are the one who has to go on a diet and exercise.

3)      You have to stop listening to “experts” who suggests that giving yourself a little time to cry, miss your ex, and eat comfort food for a while is ok. They use this trick to keep your attention because it will make you feel not guilty as well as give you an extra excuse to keep waisting your time.

4)      You have to stop discussing your break up with friends and family because it brings you back to negative mood.

5)      You have to stop doing everything that makes you think about your former love; watch love movies, listen to romantic music etc. You should figure out what brings you positive emotions and stick to this. If it’s comedy movies – watch them every day.

6)      And the most important thing you have to understand is like attracts like – in order for you to get positive events in your life you have to find positive things in EVERYTHING that is going on in your life as well as in EVERYBODY who surrounds you. You have to accept the world the way it is and stop willing to change it.

I went through series of break ups till I figured out the formula that really works but the most significant case of broken heart took about 3 years to heal. Now two weeks is enough to move forward and accept the situation as a great experience. Remember, the more positive you will be, the better surprises life will bring to you. And guess what? The person who broke your heart is not your true love, he is just “training equipment” that you used in order to meet YOUR REAL TRUE LOVE.

 
Have you ever wondered why he didn’t call after your first date? Especially when you ended up almost having sex in the car? Well, the good news is that there is always another time, another date, or another man. Anyways, I suggest not to worry. This is life and life is about lessons. I figured out the “perfect first date outfit” by the long way of trial and errors (and I’m talking about my own errows as well as my friends and clients).

 
Don’t get me wrong, the first date is not about what you wear – it’s about how do you feel, behave, and talk. It’s about chemistry and energy. However, your look IS important because chemistry is partially based on your look.  When a man says that he’s attracted to your beautiful soul and kind heart, I hardly doubt that your heart is inside of a 500 pound tattooed body with a face full of wrinkles and pimples.

 
OK, back to the first date. If he invites you to the restaurant, I suggest two main choices. Let me explain why. There are two main winning looks – classy and trendy (I hope you understand that being classy can be even more sexier than anything else). Even if you meet a 21 year old guy, trust me, if he will see you looking Classy Chik, he will fall for you right away.

 
OK, back to our First Date Outfit
1)      If the restaurant (Lounge) is upscale, wear a little black dress.
2)      If the restaurant is not that trendy and expensive, nice jeans with a classy top are a great idea.

HOW TO WEAR

The Little Black Dress

• Has to cover your assets (you’ll have plenty of time to show them later).  Yes, ladies, remember mystery is the key. Make sure that if your dress is too short, it covers your top and preferably has sleeves. Leave all fancy cuts for special occasions.

• Is not supposed to spark like Christmas tree toy.

• Wear hills, but no open shoes with tights. Hills will make you look slimmer and your legs longer. Do not wear 8 inch hills – leave it either for pole dance class or for women who wear them as a uniform (you know who I’m talking about).

• Wear one piece of jewelry. If you have huge diamonds – do not wear them till date number 5. Expensive jewelry usually scares men away. Tons of non expensive jewelry will cheap your look. You also don’t want to make noise like a factory producing tractor chains. 
   Jeans and Tops

• Jeans are supposed to be your real, not your dream size – nothing can be unsexier than pieces of meat hanging from your waist line.

• If jeans are pretty classy, your top can show some cleavage. Make sure that “some” do not look like the bikini top. You can always wear those to a club at your girls night out when you have no intention to start serious relationships.

• Leave too ripped jeans for the beach, or hanging out with friends at the bar.

• Hills are the way to go, but again, make sure that they look classy and haven’t been designed to go to a movie premier.

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The Pisces are kings of undesicivness  and the only sign that might not even know why he decided to have sex particularly with this person. Maybe the reason is that he feels sorry for you or he decided that you are “the one”. Or maybe you said something that sounds mysterious? Pisces can’t really tell…their favorite expression is “it is too complicated.”

If you decide to win a Pisces over, it’s hard to give them advice. You never know…maybe yesterday your Pisces decided that sex is a dirty thing and leads to disappointment (maybe her best friend was dumped yesterday) or vice versa…maybe yesterday your Pisces decided that sex is the best joy. The only solution is to do what YOU really want especially if the Pisces is woman. And if the Pisces is a man, do what you decided to do, just pretend that it’s HIS decision.

Use the principle of the neck which turns the head towards the correct direction. The fact that the Pisces will become “that head” that sits on “your neck” is 100%. All of the Pisces’ feelings need to have a strong support in this universe. That’s were you will become useful. If you behave well (wait patiently till your Picses travels in his inner world) and still want to be with him, then you might receive a great gift of…understanding of your nature and your desires.

Don’t get too comfortable because it won’t be for a long time. The Pisces usually has too many “inner activities” planned for today. Only with Pisces you can’t figure out if “he is here or not” even if you sleep in the same bed. Anyways, everything is too complicated here, and it could hard to figure out what’s going on.

However, there is a totally different situation when you talk about long term serious relationships. An Aquarious will tell that you he loves freedom more than any other sign. This is the truth as well as to get him into relationships is also much easier than any other sign. You really have to operate by big ideas such as to die holding hands, have a huge family (show an example of Don Corleone) anyways, the larger the scale and the closer it is to saving humanity, the better.

 
By the time you get real love and warmth in bed you will have to go through tons of conflicts and crisises. Even though the Aquarius can get closer to people easily, he is too careful in the intimacy territory. He exceeded the suspicious Taurus and the umbrageous Cancer because the Taurus and Cancer are ruled by emotions and an Aquarious is ruled by his brain.

What kind of sex you should expect is a great question. You will be too busy setting personal boundaries, sharing personal territory, negotiating roles and discussing freedom. Your couple will be too busy with activities names above. Sometimes you won’t even have time for sex. An Aquarius needs to have an all ideas “right” and pleasure can wait. The only way to make everyone happy is to explain that pleasure is absolutely nessasary for the idea of saving humanity…through sexual contact.

If you don’t run away after all those intellectual discussions, then you’ll win. To play games with an Aquarius is useless because their intuition is perfect. If you don’t share his life values and try to implement your own values, then you’ll lose. His values and ideas are much more valuable for him than sex. That’s why you have to really let his ideas into your soul, otherwise you have to go and look for a mate with another sign

 
You have to be perfect inside and outside. Following this scenario by the time you get into the Capricorn’s bed will get so tiring that the only thing you would like there is to sleep and relax. However, you’ll get disappointed in a “sleeping” environment. Holding back for too long, a Capricorn can be very pationate and aggressive. He can not only twist your mind as well as a Virgo can, but can last for hours and hours during sex.
The best way to get into “harmony contact” is to get into his emotions. It’s kinda complicated because a Capricorn pretends to be blind, deaf, and dumb and he can even pretend that he never initiated the whole script. It’s not very pleasant, but can be treated. Just make sure that you don’t jump into quick conclusions. He will release himself to you “part by part” and you have to accept this fact in advance. You will find out new facts about the Capricorn every month because he’ll tell you his story differently every time. The story line will depend on his trust level. I think a couple of years will be enough to figure him out.

Capricorns are plants that require watering. If you want fast and bright relationships then you should go after a Cancer. Well, good luck, knock on the door and it might open for you.

If you are not ready to start practical kama sutra lessons along with an assortment of sex toys, then leave the room right away.
A Sagittarius usually will not bother to ask you for your opinion about an experiment because he already knows what’s better for you.
The funniest thing is that he might be right. However, if you are not ready to accept his leadership and resist his knowledge and wisdom, he might get offended on the grand scale (he can beat theCancer in a level of his offence). Of course, he sincerely knows what’s better for you!

 
To win his heart is not too hard. He’ll win you himself, if he’s interested. However if he’s not interested, you are at great risk to hear everything he thinks about you (he will be more direct then you wish he would). If he has no abilities to diplomacy and he doesn’t like something in sex with you, then he’ll say it to your face.
The same is if he wants or doesn’t want you. Most of the time his sayings do not sound polite or on time, but there is no reason to argue. The Sagittarius will do whatever he wants to do and will base his behavior on impeccable logic and philosophy. After listening to his logic you will have two choices – to get all the pleasure or to run away in case he rejects you.
There are good news and bad news about the Sag.The bad news is you can’t argue his verdict. The good news is that it’s very easy to figure him out.

You have two choices in this situation. You can educate your Scorpio yourself and die in bed with him because the chances are that he’ll leave bed soon are very slim or you can pass on the educational process and live a long but boring life.
Scorpios are the most amazing, sexual, and intense sign. However, not everyone can handle their sarcasm and whims. The Scorpio is the one who you most likely won’t resist sex with on the first date.

Independence helps them to not “stick completely”. That’s why Libras always try to answer the question “do I really need it?” inside their minds. The Libra is the top rated sign who gets totally in love and sex addicted to their partners.
Libras love to get addicted to someone and then fight this addiction. Libras behave the same way in sex – do not be surprised when you partner who cared about you so much yesterday will turn into selfish jerk. What did you expect? Libras can forget about everything trying to please you and then they would remember that they are the center of the Universe and the situation turns upside down. To get a Libra to date you is not a super achievement, it’s not that complicated.
To make long story short, it is very complicated to figure out what’s going on with a libra because this sign is one of the most unpredictable.
Diplomacy is the Libra’s main quality. They try to build up harmony so much that sometimes they forger that feelings & emotions can be very useful in sex. If you want to be with a Libra, get him “down to earth” & keep him very tight in this position – there is a good chance that the Libra will get used to it.

Twisting someone else’s mind is the best entertainment for both Virgo’s genders. If you are a simple and down to earth person think twice if you want your mind to be twisted by a complicated Virgo. The problem is that Virgos are those heartbreakers and femme fatales (and not Leos as everyone else thinks)

The combination of the pure calculation, the external icy look, and the internal fire and curiosity to everything including sex makes Virgos irresistible in sexual games.

Again, everything is very complicated when it comes to dating Virgos. Some of them can be passionate about flirting and playing games, but the most important sexual moment can remain as cold as a fish because the Virgo is a mind twister.

One more thing – Virgos might be too persistent in some of their desires; for example they can build relationships using their own script. You won’t change a Virgo, well, love is blind….

If you don’t scratch his enormous ego, then fatal love might even be unnecessary ingredient. The sincere admiration would be the ticket to paradise. The name of this ticket is “sex with a Leo”. If you can’t help but want your Leo desperately, then you have to fit the Leo’s image. The image your Leo’s surrounding requires.

God forbid your suit will represent the wrong style and your dress will not be trendy enough. The Leo will never forgive that kind of betrayal.

Therefore, you have to do your homework in advance: check out what is cool in your Leo’s circle. If you date a Leo, you won’t avoid going to fine restaurants, clubs, opera, & concerts. If you are not a very social person and you fall for a Leo, then you not only have to handle an extreme social life, but pretend that this is the biggest joy you’ve ever had. This is the only script that can show the way to the Leo’s bedroom. The Leo does everything on a grand scale. His slogan is “Only the Queen deserves to be loved, only a million can be stolen.” If you are not a queen or a million, then a Leo simply won’t notice you. That’s why you have to be a firework, especially at bed.